I would like to introduce you to a very special lady. I met Mitzi Neely at She Speaks in 2016 and since then we have prayed for each other and had great conversations. She is a beautiful writer and lover of God's Word. Her series this month is about decluttering our minds and our hearts. Please join me in welcoming Mitzi this week. Show her some love!
For several months I have been burdened with the need to declutter and simplify my life. God has made it clear to me through several situations that it is time to get rid of the extra stuff weighing me down. Sure, there are a couple of rooms at home that require some major cleaning out, but this was about more than home. It was about clearing out the junk in my heart and mind.
Decluttering requires us to take a hard look at what has to be discarded and then actually make the decision to cut the ties; as in so long, see you later, don’t this anymore.
Easier said than done.
As far as home goes the first step for me was to assess and evaluate what needed my attention first. It’s my sewing room, hands down. It looks like a storm rolled through. Now I have a list of excuses a mile long to make it easier to digest, but the bottom line is I let it get this way.
So what’s a girl to do? Plan, strategize, and act, of course. This was an area that called for an inventory sheet and ruthless determination to sort through the plethora of items. I had invested money in all of these things--that’s why it’s hard to throw away. So I figured out what I needed to keep, what I could donate, and what could be thrown away. I’m not finished, but I’m well on my way. There is tremendous freedom and a sense of accomplishment when you manage to get yourself above the rubble. Now, if life was that easy.
God’s word tells us in 1 Peter 5:7, “Cast all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you.”
As I started to work culling the extra stuff from my life I actually had to make a list of what is good for me and what is not. I recognized that the whole point was for me to pare down what occupies (or rather overwhelms) my heart and head, and feel good about it. God wants me to practice a life of simplicity.
So here are five things I’m letting go of. For. Good.
Unrealistic Expectations - I’m going to stop trying to meet others expectations. I will not make everyone happy. It’s not healthy for me to carry around that kind of pressure. If I lose friends over not meeting their expectations, then it wasn’t a genuine relationship or friendship.
The perception of perfection - I’m giving up the world’s perception of who I should be. I’m not perfect, but I am enough–just as God made me. I will be content with who I am and explore the possibilities.
Looking for superwoman - My supergirl cape is in the laundry. I’m not worrying about this anymore. Who wants or needs to be everything to everyone? Not me. It’s not worth it, I promise. I simply want to do the best I can and accept the things I cannot change. God didn’t intend for me to do it all. That gets into busyness and that’s another story.
Giving up - Carrying around a defeatist attitude is a no-no. No one gets to tell me that I’m not enough. Setting goals is a natural part of life and I will trust God to point me in the right direction. I’m going after my dreams. I’m going to be happy and do my part. I will plan, prepare, and pray about my goals and let God lead the way. In the meantime, I’m going to enjoy what I’m doing and do it well.
No time for me - I will avoid these negative thoughts at all cost–taking care of myself is never selfish. I must take care of myself physically, emotionally, and mentally. I’m going to continue to eat healthy, workout, and laugh….a lot; It’s good for my soul. I have to get plenty of rest. And I will pamper myself occasionally. I will make time to clear the clutter from my mind. I will practice gratitude and thankfulness and build a stronger me.
As I work through this process I keep thinking that God never intended for us to hang on to the heavy burdens and lug them around with our supergirl capes on. Not once has He asked us to do that.
As I move forward, it is with a sense of clarity and a deep appreciation to Christ for prodding me, that I know I can keep a handle on the clutter.
“So we make it our goal to please Him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it.”
2 Corinthians 5:9
What are the things on your list to get rid of? Are you overwhelmed and don’t know where to start? You can start by praying. Ask God to guide you and reveal to you what areas need a thorough cleaning out. Assess and evaluate those areas. Make a plan to get rid of any negative or untruth you don’t need. Then do it. Once, and for ALL.
I’ll be praying for you.
You can find Mitzi by going to her website Peacefully Imperfect